Dating before divorce
You CAN see people, of course, but use your best judgment. Again, once you've signed a separation agreement, it's less risky–but it's still adultery (and therefore still a misdemeanor in Virginia) until you've got that Final Decree of Divorce with the judge's signature on it. I would say, however, that if you would be angry with your husband for having his new girlfriend over while the children are there, then it would probably be a good idea if you didn't do it either.Before you've signed an agreement, it's a very bad idea. Until there is an order preventing you from doing something (like having unrelated overnight guests when the children are present), legally speaking you are allowed to do it. It's probably also not a bad idea to consider your children and where they are in the whole process.Spousal support, sometimes called alimony, involves payments made to an ex-spouse according to a divorce decree.These payments help close the gap on any wage disparity between the parties.Depending on which state you are in, your dating could be considered adultery, and your spousal support could be denied.Therefore, living with the person you are dating means you may not get spousal support.If you date before your divorce is finalized, it could be difficult or impossible for you to get any spousal support.
What choices you may make with respect to raising your children, for example, is definitely not our area of expertise.
Lawyers do sometimes have to offer advice in these situations to help prevent our clients from making mistakes, in their excitement over having a chance to start fresh, that may have legal consequences for them down the road.
After you've checked out of your marriage, you may feel like you're more or less back "on the market." You may even meet someone, maybe more quickly than you ever expected. Let's be real here: you and I both know that this is definitely risky territory.
Whenever you start a new relationship before you've finished the old one, there's a risk.
That is especially true when your old relationship was a marriage.
You will also want to consider your marital property, and how it is divided.