Dating advice about girls
But in any case, whether you want to wait until marriage or whether you want to wait 3 days, I’m here to tell you, speaking from a practical dating advice point-of-view; these are both bad recommendations.
When you put a timeframe on something like this, you take away the spontaneity and natural flow of attraction. If that means having sex on the first date, or the second date, or whenever that time comes, then that is what you should do.
Now, putting aside any religious rhetoric or ideological beliefs; just taking into account the idea of someone waiting to have sex with someone else until getting married is completely moronic! And it’s one of the worst dating tips for men out there!
Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it certainly is very important.
I’ve known guys who were adamant about not paying for a drink or a meal or a ticket, and they were looked at by the women they took out as petty.
It’s one thing if a woman is obviously trying to have you buy everything or get her things; it’s another thing entirely to offer to get the first round of drinks on a first date.
” I am not saying that you should lead with your money and get flashy or that you should pay for everything; but I am saying women still feel that men should pay (or at least offer to) when he takes her out on a date.
When someone is their best self, they are all they can be and nothing more. Somewhere along the line paying for a woman when a man took her out on a date became shunned upon by the men’s self-help community.
They’ve worked at mastering their weaknesses and harnessing their strengths and they’ve overcome whatever challenges they’ve faced in life. Perhaps it was a necessity in the empowerment of man, and something that self-improvement-seeking men, especially in dating, needed to hear.
Now, don’t get me wrong, nice guys can often finish first with women (as my friend Kevin Alexander will tell you) but trying to be too nice, or trying to be someone you’re not, never works!
Guys who try to play into the nice-guy role are guys who just don’t have the confidence to be true to who they really are. They don’t have to “try” to be nice, they just are.
Why marry someone and spend the rest of your life with them without even knowing if you like connecting with them in the most definitive way?